Attending Parties

Before becoming a member of RKS, you must attend at least one party as a guest. You may then apply for membership if desired.

Coming as a Guest

Guests of RKS must be 18 years of age, and are required to RSVP for approval in advance. Approval manner depends on how the guest is being invited

Prior Guests

Guests who have attended within the last 2 years are welcome to attend again, but must RSVP at least 48 hours in advance. If you haven't attended an event in a few years, it's on a case-by-case basis.

Member invitation

Members that have completed their 6 month probationary period are granted the privilege of inviting guests. Requests to bring a guest must be send to the board 24 hours before an event for validation. The inviting party is responsible for their guests; repeatedly bringing poorly chosen, ill-behaving guests may result in loss of inviting privilege.

Members of other BDSM groups

Visitors who are coming from another city, and can provide a referral from another known, established BDSM group should e-mail RKS with relevant details preferably at least a week in advance but minimally 4 days beforehand.

Special Cases

Other situations will be considered on a case-by-case basis. Such requests should be sent be sent to the board as early as possible before the event for approval.


Guest fees are presently $25 per person, unless otherwise specified. First-time guests will have to fill out some forms and may need to show proof of age. Once signed in, new guests will be given a tour of the facilities.

There are no restrictions on how frequently a guest may visit RKS, but if you'll be attending frequently a membership is more cost-effective.

For more detail on the RKS guest policy, you can read the full guest policy. Out-of-town guests may also want to see our list of hotels closest to the dungeon.

What to Expect

RKS is neither a sex club, swingers group, nor dating service; don't expect to see or get sex. RKS is a place to meet other kinky people, but it is up to you to be social and encourage friendship-building. If you happen to meet someone through RKS and hit it off, we're happy for you, but becoming a member makes no guarantees.

Expect to take some initiative on socializing. Someone will show you around when you arrive and some members will introduce themselves, but others will be busy catching up with friends they haven't seen in a while— be prepared to introduce yourself or join in a conversation. Hiding in the corner is likely to yield an unsatisfactory experience.

If you are coming into RKS from being an "online" player, expect to relearn everything you know. Online play is often unrealistic and stereotyped—most notably, if you're a dom, you're not every submissive's dom; if you're a sub, don't grovel before every dominant. Until you find someone and start to play, we're all equals. When you're done playing, you're back to being equal.

Do not expect that just because you've played with someone, that you will start dating or that they will go home with you. If that's something you want, talk about it beforehand.

Expect people to be, well, people. Just because we're into BDSM doesn't mean you must like everyone, or that we're all great. We're regular people with jobs, families, and other interests. Like any group, our membership is composed of people who are friendly and mean, shy and outgoing, resilient and fragile, easy-going and pompous. What you can expect is for others to show the same respect to you, that we expect of you.

Expect to see people of all genders (not just male & female) with an assortment of sexual orientations, fetishes & interests, in various states of dress or undress including nudity. There may be people dressed to the hilt in leather, PVC, rubber, lingerie and corsets while others are in a T-shirt and comfortable jeans (black and red are popular colors). Expect to see things you're totally intrigued by, and conversely expect things you are not entirely comfortable with— and be prepared to remind yourself that it is consensual.

Similarly, don't expect everyone to be into every aspect of play. Some people won't have your interests, and there may even be some who are bothered by your kinks. Remember that they're allowed their feeling, but expect them to respect your interest as valid too.

For more of an idea of what you might see, please visit our gallery and read the Empty Closet's Stepping OUT: Unmasking BDSM article about RKS. Shackled on a box

What is Expected

  1. Play safe
  2. Remain drug and alcohol free while at RKS events (except socials)
  3. Check your partner's condition while scening
  4. Respect safewords
  5. Clean equipment after use
  6. Be polite.
  7. Silence cell phones and pagers, and leave the space to take calls
  8. Do not interfere with others' scenes— keep voices low in the dungeon, walk around rather than through others' scenes
  9. Avoid monopolizing equipment
  10. Clean and put equipment away after use
  11. Respect other members' confidentiality and boundaries.
  12. Don't "out" other members
  13. Don't "out" the group— arrive in everyday clothing and change after you arrive
  14. Don't spread news or rumors about other members, their play or their partners
  15. Get consent before touching people or their belongings, including toys
  16. Accept "no" means no, and do it with grace
  17. No penetration or exchange of body fluids.
  18. There is no toy or person-on-person penetration
  19. Exchange of bodily fluids is prohibited

On your first visit, be prepared to show proof that you are 18 years of age or older, the minimum age for attending any RKS event.
This overview covers the major points. Before attending a party, you should review the complete play party rules and scene etiquette.


Party atmosphere depends on which room you're in, what night you attend, and who else is there.

Our main dungeon features loud music, mostly with a rhythm, which many like to scene to.
The annex and addition are a small and medium dungeon, respectively. They are without sound systems, although the sound of the main dungeon carries in.
The vault is a small room that's quieter and has a door that can be closed. Closed-circuit TV allows DMs and others to watch play in the vault.
To accommodate the variety of members tastes, music is block formatted so a particular genre plays at a particular time. Blocks are arranged to minimize dramatic, abrupt changes. The music schedule is as follows:

Time Odd month, first party Odd month, second party Even month, first party Even month, second party
20:00 Warm up Popular Gregorian Rhythm 80's Synth Rock Chillout
20:30 Indian Classical gone modern Funky Breaks Eurodance
21:30 Trance Ominous (heavy bass) Drum & Bass Techno
22:30 House Gothic Rock Dubstep Industrial
23:30 Neue Deutsche Härte (Metal) Industrial Liquid Drum & Bass Hard Rock
00:30 Heavy Metal Techno Progressive Breaks Ominous (heavy bass)
01:40 Wrap up Chillout Buddha Chillout Buddha